We love our children. As parents, we want to provide for them, protect them, and do our best for them. However, if we are too concerned about making them happy and looking out for them, we can end up overparenting them.
The term ‘spoilt child’ brings to mind the image of a child sprawled on the floor of a toy shop and wailing for his favorite toy. Or a child who sulks and is angry with his friends because they do not want to play the game his way!
Here are some red flags that indicate you might be raising a spoilt child :
Hearing NO is a punishment –
- Spoiled kids can’t stand hearing ‘NO’. When denied access to anything they become irritated and throw tantrums.
Hate adhering to rules –
- These kids like breaking rules as they don’t understand the importance of leading a disciplined life.
Not helpful –
- They never like to help with household chores or running errands for anyone. Helping others in times of need never strikes them as they are mostly selfish.
“I need” is what they emphasize upon –
- Instead of “may I have?”, “please” they begin their sentences with “I need”. They abhor those who check them for their wrong behavior.
Want more, more, more –
- Spoiled kids are never satisfied with what they have; they never appreciate when they receive something and instead demand the next thing they want.
They are self-centered –
- These kids think that the world revolves around them as they think more of themselves than of others. They always expect compliments and favors from others but don’t believe in giving the same.
Answers back –
- Such children usually talk back at you. They dislike corrections and do not give justifications when they commit a mistake.
Can’t take criticism –
- Spoiled kids can’t take rejection or tolerate criticisms. They are bad losers, this attitude prevents them from learning as they grow up.
Unwillingness to share –
- Sharing is a big issue for spoiled children and they have difficulty parting with things that are important to them. These children are unable to demonstrate generosity.
Parents sometimes give their children a lot of things and do not realize that they are spoiling them. It is important to remember that parental attitudes affect a child’s moral compass. Therefore, it is essential to consider how parenting affects a child. It is important for us to know when to draw the line between giving our children the best of everything and overindulging them.